Beliefs & Coaching
In our life journey, we are running to achieve and HAVE and we are thought how to treat others and how to be polite. This may become the center of our concerns because wewant to be liked, accepted, and valued by others.
Very often we forget to take care of our way we treat ourselves. It’s true that there are also times when we do not forget but we don’t want to take the risk of discovering thoughts, feelings, ways to see the world that are not always positive, with value added. Discovering our dark side can bring us down, make difficult to communicate with others and make our lives miserable, hinder our self-acceptance and personal growth.
The psychologist Albert Ellis in his book A Guide to rational living identifies 10 most troubling thoughts Americans have that make their lives unsatisfactory, frustrating, and depressing. He calls them our ten irrational beliefs. Ellis discovered that almost all of the psychological and emotional distress his clients were experiencing was based upon one or more of these ten irrational beliefs.
Here they are:
You should be liked/loved by everyone.
You should be competent, adequate, and achieving in all possible respects if you are to consider yourself worthwhile.
Happiness is externally caused, and people have little or no ability to control their sorrows and disturbances.
Your past history is an important determinant to your present behavior and that because something once strongly affected your life, it should indefinitely have a similar effect.
There is only one right solution to a problem, and it is catastrophic if this perfect solution is not found.
If something is or may be dangerous or fearsome, you should be terri bly concerned about it and should keep dwelling on the possibility of it occurring.
Certain people are wicked and they should always be severely blamed and punished for their villainy.
It is awful and catastrophic when things are not the way you would like them to be.
It is easier to avoid than to face certain life difficulties and self-responsibilities.
One should become quite upset over other people’s problems and disturbances.
We should identify any irrational belief we might hold, challenge that belief with its opposite idea, and ultimately replace the old belief with a healthier belief.
What are your limiting beliefs?
In coaching there are special techniques/tools to help our clients to replace unhealthy beliefs with healthier ones.
